Chase Vs. Court

When you chase after something, do you expect to catch it, whatever it may be? That’s the whole point of the chase right? So, what happens when the term is attributed to an individual’s relationship status? An interesting question that I look to dissect tonight.


A few days ago I was involved in a conversation about the differences between courting and chasing. My friend was talking about men who act as if they are too good to chase after a woman when they look to obtain her acknowledgement. It would seem as if she was placing courting and chasing into the same category. We went back and forth about it for a few moments about the usage of the words and that was that.

In my opinion, courting and chasing are two vastly different things. Courting is for the more mature crowd. The individuals who know that the idea of a relationship is a process that is comprised of a certain number of steps. During the courting phase, I believe that this is when the male puts his best foot forward to show his blatant interest in the woman of his choosing. At the same time, she returns the sentiment without being too easy or too hard all at the same time. Let him know that his hard work will pay off one day; in whatever fashion that may be.

Chasing, on the other hand, is a game for people who enjoy playing games and simply that. We all know exactly the type of individuals I’m speaking of. The people who give out their phone number, then don’t respond to calls or texts; those who give every reason in the book as to why they are too busy to hang out; the people who seem to get off on getting someone interested in them and not lifting a finger to reciprocate that sentiment…if it’s even there. Basically, the habitual time waster.

As a man, I have no problem doing what I need to do to court a woman. Original dates, thinking of you texts, reaching out in creative ways…all those are just some examples of what a man should be willing to do when looking to get involved with a new woman. At the same time, I need to know that what I’m doing will have an end result. Don’t lead me around to thinking I have a chance when simply I don’t. We’re grown ass adults….act as such and let me know before time and money are wasted.

Don’t chase my friends…you will be left out of breath and spewing venom. Instead, court those that want to be courted and have fun doing it. Dating is supposed to be fun right? Take the stupid work out of it and nip the foolishness in the bud….

Until next time….

C.E.